Thoughts from a MAN about women Hair!

So today I was talking/texting a new friend, Ronnie Williams, about an assortment of things. But of everything we talked about the topic of hair brought about a discussion well worth blogging about!

So here was our little Q&A + some insight from me for the readers lol.
I(Me) began by saying the word HAIR and Ronnie(R) has to respond to what came to mind first...

Me: Hair
R: My favorite thing about a woman physically.

Me: Why do you like hair so much?
R: Ok...so much can be done with a woman's hair. There's a wide range of styles. Also, the way a woman keeps ger hair usually determines what type of person she is. For instance, if a woman keeps her hair neat, clean, and nice all the time, she's usually a tidy, organized, neat woman. Women with consistent weave are usually more lazy and dependent. Women who try many hair styles are free spirits!!! A woman's hair just says so much about her.

I couldn't agree more! I have plenty witnesses to the "women with consistent weave" especially in college students. Not to condem anyone for saying this but a frequent story I hear from female college students is that they cover their natural hair because they'll be too busy to deal with their hair, they won't have time, they don't want to be bothered with it, or perhaps they can't afford their chemical routines while in college.

Me: I think this is so insightful especially coming from a male. So what does my hair tell you?
R: You aren't afraid to be yourself, you're creative and innovative. You are tidy and responsible. You're confident. Thats what I get from your current hair style.
Me: So true! I gotta blog about this and quote you.
I gotta agree with the man. When I enter the nappy hutt I tell them I got some professional events and church to attend but I also need to exert a creative unique me in my daily hair styles. And when a woman is proud of her hair confidence will always be on her side.

Me: So what do you get from your girlfriend's hair?
R: Adrionna is conservative and humble. She is proud of her natural beauty. She stays within her comfort zones.
Me: Does she wear her hair naturally?
R: Not completely natural as in no chemicals. But she doesn't do weave.
Me: do you have an opinion on women chemically treating their hair vs. wearing their natural hair?
R: I don't think women should put chemicals in too often. Just enough to keep it manageable.


Okay okay now this is where I get to go on a mini rant. Ronnie's response isn't wrong but just ill educated like that of many other men and women on the WORLD! Natural hair is not I repeat NOT High Matienence!
I'll tell you whats high matienence, perms and relaxers and blow outs. They keep you from the pool, they keep you running from the rain, they keep your hair lifeless, they chemically break down each and every hair follicle causing you to buy more products to prevent your hair from actually breaking off. Seriously do your research its pretty scary stuff! Go into a hair product isle, look for the relaxers and then note what you see next to next to those relaxers...(reconstructors, products to give your hair body/lift, extra conditioners, etc.)

Natural hair is always "managable" with the use of the right products. Everyone's curl pattern is different, everyone's texture feels and acts a different way therefore by seeking the advice of a professional and some experiementation you can find NATURAL products for you Natural hair that complement your hair and make you feel beautiful as you are. Your hair is capable of growing beautifully with very little maitenence and guess what natural hair LOVES water!

The concept of natural hair being inappropriate, not for the work place, and hard to manage is a lack of education, a lack of self-confidence, and influences from years of a segregated society where the caucasion image was the "right" image and was idolized by african americans who pursued educations and careers they felt they had to "fit the image".... Times have changed people! Natural is not wearing a mask, its not chemically straightening your hair. Natural is rocking the beautiful hair God blessed you with. Your hair is not a nightmare and its not a curse its a blessing! In my blog and in the natural hair photography i've done on www.nappyhutt.com you can see our beautiful BLACK HAIR can do the most! Wear it long or short with no use of scissors. Braids, coils, twists, locs, and even straight with the use of a HEAT Protectant!
Over the break I read the book Thank God I'm Natural! I highly suggest it to anyone who is natural or trying to decide to start the journey back to their roots(literally). The book tells the truth to many natural hair myths. Breaks down how relaxers work, how the hair follicle grows, breaks down the names of ingrediants in your local stores hair prooducts. She shares with you the good the bad and the ugly WITH PICTURES TOO! And in the end she even gives you recipes on how to make your own products! So if you are on a budget no worries! The best products are probably already in your kitchen. Reading that book her opinion was even more relevant because she is a lawyer. So its insite from a working professional who proudly rocks her natural hair.


Think about it... what's stopping you from embracing how God made you?

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